Woman forced to move out of her apartment after unemployed roommate invited his brother to live with them, resulting in her paying rent and bills alone: ‘I'm done here’

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Jul 23, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Living with your best friends can go one of two ways – Either extremely great or terribly wrong, and you can assume that most people will tell you that it usually goes the latter way.

There is something about sharing a space that is just so specific for everyone involved, that even if you love each other and enjoy each other's company, it does not mean that you will enjoy living together. The main problem is that you will not know until you try, and that is why most people would recommend simply not trying at all.

The friends in this Reddit story decided to ignore the warnings and try living together anyway, and boy did it not go well. OP (original poster) shared how her best friend and roommate, while unemployed and not contributing to rent or bills, has invited his brother to live with them, making the living situation even harder for OP. She is now cleaning up after the two, paying rent, and paying bills, and she has had enough. 

Will OP and her best friend's relationship last after living together? Scroll down to read the full story and share your opinion. After you are done, click here for a story of an employee who stepped down from his role after being denied a raise.

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  • 01
    I wish you would've told me how you were feeling or that you've been applying to jobs out of state. I understand they you've been stressed, I have to especially considering I've genuinely been trying so hard to get a new job. You've made it very clear that you're miserable and I feel like it's basically my fault. Me and can start
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    Don't live with your best friend, I'm going insane
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    I know everyone has said it, but I didn't believe them. I 21f moved in with my best friend 20M almost 9 months ago and everything was perfect except for a few hiccups. A few months ago his
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    brother 27M moved in and this is where everything started. P◆ on the seats every day, no trash getting taken out, dirty dishes, messy house, finishing my food because no one else has money. His brother also has
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  • 05
    a dog that owes and pops everywhere that he will leave for days/weeks. My best friend hasn't had a job since January and rent day is always stressful. When his brother moved in we have had to help pay rent ever since. We almost got our
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    gas and water shut off because no one has money except me. I go to work just to come home and see them chilling on the couch and it makes me so angry.
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    A few weeks ago I saw the dog pod by the steps and asked his brother to clean it up to which he came downstairs and screamed at me for 5 minutes. After that I just want to leave. Today we got into another argument (texts) and now I feel like
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    I'm being gaslit because the brother is acting so nice all of a sudden and now my best friend is basically telling me if I leave he's gonna end it. They cleaned up the house but I know it's just going to go back to the way it was and I think I'm being majorly manipulated. I don't know what to do.
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    Today 3:22 PM I wish you would've told me how you were feeling or that you've been applying to jobs out of state. I understand they you've been stressed, I have to especially considering I've genuinely been trying so hard to get a new job. You've made it very clear that you're miserable and I feel like it's basically my fault. Me and can start looking for a new place together. I'm sorry I fd everything up
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    I've literally told you and cried to you about how stressed I am about everything on more than one occasion? Like multiple times I've told you how I'm feeling. In the text I'm talking to not you so I'm confused on how you've turned it onto you? And yeah I'm pretty stressed out, not only that I feel like I can't even say anything about how I'm feeling without getting ganged up on. I know it's your brother and you'll always choose him but this is really f
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    I love you too I just don't want to build resentment which is what has been happening since ✓ moved in tbh Like I don't want this to ruin our relationship And honestly I'm nervous talking to Like I know I keep saying it but after that incident I honestly don't really like him anymore and feel like I'm walking on eggshells if I say anything to him in case he flips out Delivered
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    9:45 155 B I most definitely understand and honestly agree with the way you feel. However I've expressed to him multiple times that he needs to just communicate and listen. I really do think you guys are capable of really liking each other you just have to set your boundaries for him and he understands that as this was your house before he got here. I don't want this to become a big thing that 46
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    actually makes an issue between us bc I think that'll actually b my 13th reason my life is not stable enough to lose the only person I can trust and rely on. I'll literally talk to him with you if you need me to bc I have expectations and s☐ too. I'm trying my best to get one of these jobs snagged so I can start bringing in shmoney and we can be living our hood life again.
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    + And I know u said "I'll always chose him" but if he were to literally ever raise his voice at u like that again it would literally be game over id lose it. Also he jus got pasta stuff from dollar tree so gonna make that soon HOOD LIFE *good life iMessage
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    kurkoyy 3 days ago Get out of that situation, it's not your fault they don't have money or job. You aren't their parent. I really hope you don't have a year long lease or anything.
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    2 Present-Toe-1087 OP 3 days ago • Only 3 months left, I'm honestly looking at live in nanny jobs to apply to so I can escape quicker and just paying the lease until it ends
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    kurkoyy 3 days ago Don't let them gaslight you into signing another lease with them, you should not be the only one paying rent. And they should not be eating all your food.
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    Terangela 3 days ago Leave leave leave. These people are using you. Real friends wouldn't do this
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    • Present-Toe-1087 OP 3 days ago Ughhh I know but it's just really hard for me to make friends so when I do make a good one, I want it to last
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    Terangela 3 days ago It isn't lasting. These are not good friends. Figure out what your standards are and make new ones, because you deserve better.
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    ilovecookiesssssssss · 3 days ago • How is he a good friend tho? A good friend wouldn't let you take on all the bills by yourself. He's mooching off you and letting his brother destroy the house.
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    • Present-Toe-1087 OP 3 days ago But yea to the brother destroying the house we are 100% not getting our security deposit back because the dogs have pod so much on the wood it has stained the floor because they let it sit there
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    wonzogonzo · 3 days ago at least you're going to have some cooked pasta soon
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    2037 Present-Toe-1087 OP 3 days ago dollar tree pasta, so yummy
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